Pause for a moment. Slow Down. Lean back. Take a deep breath.
I have a question for you today. It’s easy to ask. But I want you to spend time considering the answer.
What do you need right now?
Forget about that to-do list, the never ending demands from others about their wants, their needs, their requests.
What is it that would most soothe your heart and soul? What is it that would bring you back to your hearts center? Bring you peace? I tend to be a person who’s relatively on chill mode about most things. I’m pretty agreeable most of the time. I'M FINE, IT'S FINE ;) Where do you want to eat? Anywhere. What Movie would you like to watch? Whatever you'd like. Stay in or go out? Either’s fine. Often times that means I give to others’ needs before my own, which most of the time isn’t an issue. I really don’t mind. And there are times when I forget to do that check-in on me, to look a little deeper, to make sure it really is fine.
The ask, the answer, the request
Last week, I was completely drained of energy, I was emotional because of multiple relational issues, and all I wanted to do was snuggle up in my bed and watch a sappy chic flick.I was a bit cranky and maybe even kinda sad.
The real desire that I had, to be in connection with others and have no demands on me at all, wasn’t something that had come to mind right away, because most of the time I’m happier being productive, creative and busy. There’s very little downtime in my life. Just because I’m one way most of the time, doesn’t mean I am that way all of the time.
I needed some time to myself, AND to not be alone, where I wasn’t "doing".
I contacted my sister and her husband and asked if they would be willing to "Mother" me for a few days. Provide me a space where I can be alone and not alone, a space to be creative and paint, read, meditate, play music, listen if I need to talk, cook delicious and healthy, draw a bath with lots of bubbles, leave me be, hug me.
Then, something that had been such a tremendous weight for days was lighter to carry.
Your Mission, Accept It
My challenge for myself and to you is to look deeper. Don’t move through the world on cruise control. Invite it all up and have a cup of coffee with it! While you might feel you don’t have the time, if you don’t take CARE of yourself, nourish yourself, you’ll never be able to be the best version of yourself. Sometimes in order to have enough to give to other people, you need to put your own oxygen mask on first.
Pause, and take a breath. Shine a light on your needs. Be in harmony with your values. Connect to yourself with empathy and compassion.
What do you – your emotions, physical body, mind, spirit – want, or need you to do?
Do you need sustenance? Need protection? Do you need empathy? Need honesty? Do you need rest? Celebration? Love? To Play? Do you need connection? Creativity? Do you need community? Do you need to journal, meditate or just be in silence? Do you need to read, watch mindless television, or listen to music?
Or do you just need to sit and do nothing for a while, with no demands, no requests?
So go on, ask yourself now.
What do you need? All you have to do is ASK!